Blessings

1. New shoes. ¬†Sparkly! Shiny! Perfect for the wedding Big J and I are going to next week ūüôā

2. My lovely friend of a year, A, the Universe’s perfect answer to my requests for a friend with a heart filled with love and light, who lives 5 minutes away, whom I can text when I buy shiny new shoes!

3. C playing guitar, a week after I gave up asking her to ūüôā

"THIS is how I like to play my guitar"

(You can see why I drove to Wales for that lazy-boy sofa.)

4. Our tomboy C has been playing with her dolls! Not dressing them in pretty clothes, exactly (Grandma did that at the weekend), but she did colour one of the casts a nice shade of purple ūüėÄ

5. J has been listening to Sara Book 1: Sara Learns The Secret About The Law Of Attraction!¬†C listened to all three Sara books two years ago when J was a bit young to follow (and of course too young to have forgotten all that stuff anyway ;-)). ¬†I read him a chapter last week, ¬†soon after that he rounded up the CDs from around the house – and now he’s hooked!

6. While he listened, J joyfully arranged his Yu-Gi-Oh cards into “attack-ical” order ūüėÄ

7. My new friend C. Oh my, the BLISS of sharing ABRAHAM! A fellow home-educating deliberate creator! I appreciate myself and C SO much for allowing law of attraction to bring us together!

To The Coast

I love where we live. ¬†We’re close enough to London for the capital’s culture to be part of our lives, yet an eighty minute drive through some of England’s prettiest villages brings us to the beach. ¬†Best of all, my wonderful brother and sister-in-law and their scrumptious 10-week-old son live around the corner. ¬†(Though my brother and I were born five years apart, our lives have shared many synchronicities, one of which is that we moved to the same town – 150 miles from where we grew up – within weeks of eachother.)

C and J at Brack Feb 11We came to the coast today to look at a house we’d like to buy. ¬†It’s been a while since I’ve felt such strong desire for a material thing, but as with any desire, I know the key to its manifestation lies in feeling good. ¬†I spent the journey to the coast listening to Abraham-Hicks recordings and focusing on good feeling thoughts, and sure enough by the time we arrived I was less attached to the outcome of the house situation and looking forward to a nice family weekend by the sea.

Jas at Brack Feb 11The rest of the day unfolded beautifully. ¬†My brother spontaneously decided to come surfing, after which we had a delicious fish and chip supper with him and his family. ¬†As regards the house – a call this afternoon from a friend put us in touch with a cash buyer for our current property, leaving us in the perfect position to make an offer on the new one. ¬†And the children’s shoes are, once again, drying out on the radiator!

Cordie at Brack

Taking The Time To Align

Looking back, I can see that at 10am this morning, today could have unfolded in two very different ways. ¬†As we left the Learning Centre where C and J do music lessons I was side-tracked¬†by a book sale, and while I stopped to buy something C and J, experts at finding entertainment wherever they happen to find themselves, began joyfully running in and out of the automatic sliding doors to the outside. ¬†I won’t dwell on what happened next; suffice to say that I was asked to stop my children running in and out of the door, C and J were disinclined to stop their fun, and I forgot all about my number one priority of feeling good – in fact we all got back into the car feeling Very Bad!

My tolerance for being outside of wellbeing is low – not only does it feel terrible, but I know that Law Of Attraction cannot possibly line me up with anything I want when I am so far out of whack. ¬†So, I breathed; ¬†I put Cecilia’s “Amazing Grace”¬†into the car CD player and selected track 2, “Prayer Of St Francis”; ¬†I opened a pot of strawberries, raspberries and blueberries; and I focused on becoming the channel of peace Cecilia was beatifically extolling.

Within minutes of leaving the Learning Centre, not only did my sense of lightness and ease return, but the Universe performed its side of the wellbeing equation beautifully:¬†the synchronicities that flowed after those five minutes I had spent realigning with wellbeing were a perfect demonstration of the leveraging power of Source Energy. ¬†Having spent the last few days fantasizing about driving a camper van round Europe and wondering where to find more information about it, I met a home educating mum who shared her experiences about doing just that, and even gave me a tour of her van (which, incidentally, runs on vegetable oil!);¬†I “randomly” bumped into three old friends I’d been wanting to get in touch with (one of them twice!); and a house we’ve been wanting to buy for two years came up for sale. ¬†My husband is cautious about our chances of being able to buy the house, but I’m more optimistic. ¬†I’ve got special powers – I know about Law Of Attraction.

Deliberate Creation

My blog byline (if that’s the correct word) describes me as a “home-educating deliberate creator”. ¬†I use the words “deliberate creator” in the sense given by Abraham-Hicks in their body of work on the law of attraction. ¬†I believe I am the creator of everything I experience, both positive and negative, which I attract by my thoughts and feelings. Since I came to understand this I have been playing a game of gradually training my focus towards what I want and away from what I don’t want. ¬†I was born an optimist, which helps, but it’s amazing how much attention most of us (me included) give to unwanted conditions and situations. ¬†As children we are brought up to tell “the truth” (tell it how it is), but while I can see the folly in sticking a happy face sticker over an empty petrol gauge, I’ve come to realise that giving my attention to unwanted things, for example by talking or writing about them, just keeps them in my life.

So this blog may seem a little Pollyanna-ish, and writing a post can take a bit longer than it might, on those days when I first need to focus my thoughts towards positive inspiration, but when I reflect on some of the incredible changes in my life since I started playing the deliberate creation game, there’s no question in my mind that it’s a price worth paying.

Basking In Wellbeing

What a lovely day. It started well, and got better and better as law of attraction did its stuff. ¬†I’m not sure what the magic ingredient was that started it off – maybe a feeling of satisfaction at the end of ¬†wonderful first week of home educating my daughter, maybe cuddling my 7 week old nephew for an hour at lunchtime, or it could have been seeing C and J laughing as they played “duck duck goose” with their friends at our home education group this afternoon. ¬†By the time I got home I was buzzing and I knew my introverted brain needed recharging, but I felt so good I almost didn’t want to risk coming down by doing my daily meditation. ¬†I’m so glad I did, though – the experience was exquisite; sublime, physically and emotionally. ¬†Everyone around me cooperated in my bliss – my husband’s commute worked (for the first time this week!), J was full of gorgeous bedtime little-boy-cuddles, and C kept popping down after bedtime, explaining “I don’t know what it is, Mummy, but it’s like you’re a baby I just want to keep cuddling”.

I love basking in a new level of wellbeing.

Is Homeschooling Sexist?

I believe that every problem carries with it an equal solution, and that if we have a solution-oriented mindset, problems can be embraced in anticipation of the satisfaction of the solution, which either appears simultaneously with, or follows, our awareness of the problem (depending on how aligned we are to our well-being).

So I particularly enjoyed reading Laurae Lyster Mensh’s thought-provoking article “Is Homeschooling Sexist?” ¬†on the¬†Home Education Magazine website, because it gave me clarity on an issue I have been pondering in the background of my mind for some time. ¬†In her article (which was originally published in the magazine in 2000, but is no less pertinent eleven years on), Lyster Mensh invites us to reflect on the question (relevant to the vast majority of home educating families):

‚ÄúWith mom almost always at home and dad at work, what kind of message does it send to our daughters? To our sons?‚ÄĚ

I have asked myself a similar question often throughout my years as a full-time home-maker and now home-educator. ¬†Having been ¬†delighted to have an excuse to leave a stressful and unfulfilling career as a lawyer when I had my first child, I was thrilled to discover, shortly after the birth of my youngest, a way of earning money that is a perfect match for my values and skills – I trained and began working part time as a cognitive hypnotherapist. Although I don’t currently see many clients, those I do manage to fit in leave me with a feeling of energy and upliftment that comes from doing something that is a true calling. I also feel satisfied knowing that as the years go on and my children become more independent and ultimately leave home, I will be able to expand my therapy practice and develop my skills and experience. ¬†My husband, meanwhile, commutes from Monday to Friday to a ¬†full-time job which keeps us in an extremely comfortable ¬†lifestyle but which deprives him of any meaningful interaction with our children for¬†five days a week. ¬†This is certainly not something I would wish for my either of my children when they become parents. ¬†So what is the alternative?

I think the answer lies in the kind of people we are encouraging our children to be: free-minded, creative life-long learners,  with all the the skills they need to support themselves and their families doing work they love, on terms set by them.  One way this might look would be for my grown-up children to share with their respective partners both the privilege and responsibility of raising and educating their children, and the opportunity to engage in fulfilling income-generating activities.  There are a great many possible permutations of such an arrangement, and it is my sincere hope and belief that by virtue of who they are and the kind of education they are experiencing, they will each find a way to not only precariously balance their desires to spend time with their children and to do meaningful and lucrative work, but to thrive on the arrangement.

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